In this series, we interview a variety of Disabled Aces with diverse backgrounds in honor of #DisabledAceDay and in conjunction with Ace Week.
Do you need more Black Disabled Agender Asexual content in your life? OBVIOUSLY you do! Luckily for you, Mikhayl AKA Mik (Ze/Zir and They/Them) has a variety of awesome things going on, and we were delighted to have this interview.
Please introduce yourself! How do you identify in terms of asexuality, disability, passions, professions, or anything else you’d like to share with us?
I am a Black Agender Ace individual with bipolar, diabetes, and chronic fatigue. My passions include making music, streaming, gaming, pottery, and baking. I’ve tried my hand at gardening, but I don’t possess a green thumb. I love herbal teas and black coffee and I drink out of the cups I’ve made.
How do your asexual and disabled identities interact with one another and what unique challenges have you faced while living at this intersection?
When seeking a diagnosis, my asexuality was always questioned. When given new medication, my asexuality was always questioned. MY therapist has always been understanding, but any psychiatrist looks at me sideways when I mention my lack of sexual attraction.
Have you personally experienced any ableism from within the asexual or other LGBTQ2IA+ communities?
Queer folx tend to be accepting of disabilities, so I’ve rarely dealt with it. There are stigmas against personality disorders (which I was misdiagnosed with) but in most cases I’ve been accepted with open arms.
Have you personally experienced any acephobia from the disability community?
The normal acephobia I get, I get from everywhere. Disabled, queer, or not. I think there’s a big misunderstanding of what being ace means.
What advice do you have for folks who wish to become better allies to disabled aces?
First and foremost, ask aces. Don’t project what /you/ might think a disabled ace thinks.